Opportunities, Taking Advantage of the Right Ones

The hope for new opportunities is something we can all relate too. Some prepare for a lifetime to get that one opportunity longed for year after year, whatever it might be. Some jump at every opportunity that comes along. Opportunity is generally viewed optimistically as a chance to do better, to redo, or to change altogether. We take opportunities everyday, sometimes after much thought, sometimes without much thought at all. Whether we acknowledge them or not, opportunities come our way everyday. Some are blatant and some are packaged in a way that they may be taken for granted.

To hear the word ‘opportunity’ generally brings on feelings of excitement and curiosity. We love opportunities, so much so that we sometimes even allow them to interrupt the vision already prepared. This is especially true for those who are in a ‘meantime’ status where patience is of the utmost importance. While we go through the motions of satisfying the needs of the meantime, new opportunities will likely come along that have nothing to do with our goals or our path. But because the opportunity seems so desirable and is being taken by many of those around us, one can easily become anxious and began moving away from the original plans or original goals already established, and end up jumping on the bandwagon…now distracted.

Hearing about or being offered new opportunities always sounds like a winner, but it is always the responsibility of the individual to take the better ones, hence the importance of already having some type of direction or at the least some idea of the direction one wants to go. Every opportunity we take, whether personal or professional, will have some bearing on future arrangements, which makes it imperative that we choose wisely. Too often we become clueless of why we are where we are. Too often we place blame. But if we take the time to think back, there we will find the source, the opportunities we embraced, the reasons.

So yes, opportunities come our way everyday. They look good. They sound good. They give us hope. However, what we will find to be most important with embracing new opportunities is our awareness of the obligations already established in our lives. When we can make the two, opportunities and obligations, gel together and compliment each other; that is when we’re found to embrace the right ones and see progression. Opportunities and obligations can work together and either bring success or create disaster. There’s even the in-between of the best and the worst, known as the mundane, that many settle for, but choosing the right opportunities and addressing the expectations of obligations is a combination sure to offer the best.

Take advantage of, yet take heed to opportunities, big and small. They help shape our lives and they’ll always be around. The more focused we are and the more clear our direction , the less likely we are to become anxious when the appealing, sometimes false opportunities come our way and the less likely it is that they will lead us astray. If we view opportunities more appropriately as options, perhaps it would give us the assurance that there are a host of them and it is up to us to distinguish the good from the bad. Choose wisely.

Tawana R. Powell

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Productive Thinking

As my kids walk out the door each morning to catch their ride to school with Dad, somebody’s mind is sure to be on racing to the front seat. Sure enough, with such a thought at the forefront of their mind, a lunch bag or binder is left behind. As a mother who is always concerned about their thought process, a lesson awaits that evening.

Your thoughts can tell a lot about why you forget the more important matters at hand. The more you take the time to revisit your actions, the more you will see the connection. Too busy thinking about irrelevant matters can lead you to missing out on time-sensitive productivity. But the thought alone is not your only challenge. The energy and intentions that accompany a thought, as well as the desired result will also play important roles.

The energy that leads up to and follows through with your thoughts are significant in that it is the source from which your thoughts begin . The energy produced within along with intention determine how your mind defaults to the same unproductive thought pattern too often. Also, the result that stems from your thoughts is working for you in a way that must offer some sort of satisfaction or you would not continue to repeat. So what you must figure out is why some thoughts work for you? What are they producing that continues to lead you to the same thought pattern consistently? Do the results really bring satisfaction or do you end up suffering consequences? Are you processing thoughts with positive or negative intentions? The energy from your intentions will help determine for you, the kind of results you are likely to experience.

So I ask one child, ‘was it worth leaving behind your binder full of homework to turn in for today’s credit?’ If your intentions were to sit up front because more room is provided for your child-sized legs; room that in no way could be accommodated by the back seat, then perhaps your efforts were worth leaving behind your work. But if your intentions involved beating out your sibling to the front seat for the pure satisfaction of doing so just because, then it was likely not worth the consequences of incomplete homework.

On another day, the consequence of running to the front seat for little sister was leaving a lunch bag behind. Again, if you pay attention to your intentions, your reasoning must be worth the action so that your experience is satisfaction rather than a consequence. So the question becomes, ‘As much as you hate cafeteria food, was the front seat ride worth the consequence of eating nasty food?’ Likely not. Consumed with the thought and the intention of beating brother to the front seat led to an unwanted consequence. But when you form the habit of thinking more productive thoughts, you have a greater chance of having more satisfactory experiences rather than unwanted consequences.

Productive thinking equates to a productive day but it cannot exist without pure intentions and positive energy. If your day often ends on a more consequential note as opposed to satisfactory results, weigh in on your thought process, especially as you begin a day, begin a project, or begin a relationship. Anything new deserves your best thought process, your best intentions, and your best energy because thoughts typically lead to similar thoughts over a period of time. Productive thinking doesn’t always come naturally but over time, creating the habit of consistent productive thinking will.

Think well and be blessed.

Tawana R. Powell

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The Battle Between Past Mistakes & Future Success

The greatest stronghold on your ability to succeed will be past mistakes. Although they may offer some of the greatest lessons, to ignore the responsibilities created from them will deter you from moving forward and finding success.

Some call it a ‘light-bulb moment’, some have an epiphany. It’s the time in your life when you finally realize the key to success and you began understanding the ways to create a better life for yourself. To surrender to the truth, however, about the changes that need to be made doesn’t mean the consequences of past mistakes will disappear. Therefore, the amount of time and energy you apply to a better future should also be the same amount of time you place in cleaning up the mess left from past mistakes.

One of the biggest mistakes made is the decision to ignore financial obligations. All the bills and debt created from irresponsible choices in the past cannot be overlooked simply because you now know how to make better financial decisions. Obviously, the obligations don’t disappear and neither should your memory. No matter how much you push away and ignore previous obligations, they do find a corner somewhere in your life to settle. Even when you think you’ve escaped the obligation, you’ve missed the lesson of responsibility. And when this same challenge comes around again, you will not be equipped with the conscience to do what is right. Instead, you will find it easier to continue overlooking and disowning responsibility and yet because you still have a determination to be happy, the only option left will be to pretend or appear to be in control in the eyes of everyone else.

For those who reach the moment of surrendering to what you’ve been called to do but know that past obligations are taking a toll, it is most important that you don’t allow those obligations to defeat you. It is always easiest to give up when it seems that past obligations, especially the financial ones, won’t give. And many have given in to the defeat. Not only should you continue to handle what is expected of you but you should also value the lessons that go along with it. The lessons are not there to make you believe things will never get better. They are there to help you realize better decisions could’ve been made and better decisions should be made going forward. Obligations may seem to hold you back from what you want to do now but faith and perseverance will eventually get you there.

Because of past obligations, many give in to defeat, still don’t handle responsibilities, and lose all hope for a better future. As they say, ‘only the strong will survive’. Only those who accept responsiblity of any decisions made and see them through will reap a true sense of what it means to be successful. Setbacks are opportunities to work through something. They make you stronger when you see them through. They make you weaker when you choose not to see. Everybody makes mistakes and many make bad decisions financially, big and small. Nothing can change the fact that you’re responsible for the choices you make but what you decide to do about those choices can change everything. Take responsiblity no matter how long it takes to see obligations through. When God knows you’re sincere about taking steps to clean up any mess you’ve made, doors will begin to open and ways will be made. A willing heart is what it takes to make all the difference. Be responsible.

Regards,

Regards,

Tawana R. Powell

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What is the True Meaning of Success?

Success…we want it, want to be it, want to feel it, want to live it, want to own it and want others to acknowledge it. But do we really know what it means to have success? Do we know what it really takes to be successful?

The basic definition of success is ‘the accomplishment of one’s goal or goals’, and the most important factor of this definition is the action aspect of the word ‘accomplishment’. As simple as it may sound, what we may not realize is the necessity of time and energy it takes to accomplish any goal from the smallest of them to the greatest. When we describe what it means to be successful, many of us envision a deeper meaning such as ‘the ability to attain wealth and the ability to land an important and admirable position’. And once again, what we may fail to realize is that those who actually achieve what it means to be successful, have had to offer much time and much energy.

The true meaning of success begins with one’s desire to simply be the best at what they have been gifted to do. Two of the most important aspects that will appear along the way to true success are discipline and structure. To experience any respectable level of success, one must have the ability to practice discipline in many areas of life. What we spend our time doing, what we spend our money on, and our ability to say no when we sometimes want to say yes, will all play vital roles in any success we achieve.

What we spend our time doing every hour, everyday, will have a significant impact on whether or not we experience success of any kind. Pay attention to the amount of time spent reading, learning, researching, socializing, partying, drinking, sleeping, meditating, reflecting, gossiping, tv watching, dating, planning, setting goals, nurturing gifts, and many others things that take up any amount of time. Everything we do is either productive or not productive. Everything we do is either contributing to success or is not contributing. If we live and act by these two truths, it becomes possible to achieve the true meaning of success.

Financially, one of the greatest failures many experience is the inability to save money. No matter how much we buy, no matter how much travel we experience, no matter how much we have to show, there is no true financial success if we have nothing saved. No one can claim the true meaning of financial success without a substantial amount of money saved; no if’s, and’s or but’s about it. The challenge that causes many to fail at financial success is the ability to choose the wiser between wanting to look successful and wanting to really be successful. Which one takes priority in your life? Unfortunately for many, appearance rules.

Knowing when to say no to activities that keep us behind and cause us to waste time will determine how much true success we experience. This is where the necessity of structure takes place in life. Already having a plan can help alleviate making unwarranted decisions that, more than anything, knock us off track. Already having structure and a schedule that includes goals are vital to success because structure gives us reason to say no to the many opportunities that will be offered by friends and fun. Running with friends and having fun all the time, as good as it sounds, will be the hindrance for many. When we truly want to obtain success at what we’re gifted to offer to this world and those around us, we must learn to say no at the right times. Anytime we find ourselves justifying why we choose to do anything, it is those sugar-coated excuses that lead us astray.

So what is the true meaning of success? The true meaning is detailed in the discipline and structure along the way to every goal reached. The more important question, however, is..How willing are you to put aside many things and work for it?

Tawana